We are told that sex and love are part of the same instinct; I disagree. Love is a pleasant sensation of comfort we feel when we’re close to a special person. LIVRO EM DESTAQUE. DR. FLÁVIO NO YOUTUBE. Assine o FEED do canal do Dr. Flávio no Youtube e mantenha-se atualizado conforme novos vídeos são. As for his theoretic work, in he presented studies about sex therapy; his first and critically acclaimed book, published in , was about sex, love, and.
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As such, in this book he rethinks several myths and half-truths about sex and addresses controversial issues. Psychical processes follow a very peculiar logic, which must be discovered in their own specific way.
The dramatic rupture of the harmony felt in the womb brings panic, which can clearly licros seen on the face of the newborn.
fear | Dr. Flávio Gikovate
In the passing years, he published many studies about sex, love and married life; this would be the main theme of his life work. He has not affiliated himself to any specific school of psychological thought, nor has he refused any particular influences, being open to learning from various sources.
Change requires determination and discipline; relinquishing established habits is a difficult process that brings pain and even withdrawal symptoms.
Basically, whenever something very good happens, people feel threatened, as if all that good fortune increases the odds of a subsequent tragedy. Good romantic relationships are great, but they are actually very similar to being single, inasmuch as they bring growth and there are no impositions.
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It was a great box office hit in several countries, including Brazil. Love and freedom encounter another peculiar barrier, which is cultural conditioning.
Human beings are mammals, with multiple desires.
Up to that point, they had been happiest being held by their mothers, in a peace and comfort gikovatd as they lost at birth, feeling for their mothers what we call love. Almost everyone I know cried at least once during the movie. This assumption is also at the root of the theory that opposites attract, in which a partner should be what the other, supposedly incomplete person, is not; if one is flvio, the other should be combative, for instance. At the same time, he shows that desire and arousal are very different phenomena: Why do we fall in love with a specific person?
Being strong means accepting, dealing with and assimilating all kinds of pain and setbacks that life inevitably brings.
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Its rights have been sold to Spanish speaking countries, as well to the Middle East. At first, this made no sense to me, because after all, falling in love was the innermost desire of so many people. I suddenly realized that when people fall in love they start living in a constant state of alert—of panic, even—as if they expected a tragedy to befall them at any moment.
Giovate are living in paradise—and gikovafe means being expelled.
They now associate harmony with a disaster that will destroy their happiness; after flavvio, their uterine peace was gikovzte, and they still fear that similar feelings will have a similar ending.
People are beginning to understand that they even if they feel like a fraction of a person, they are whole — just like their partner, who is not a knight in shining armor or a savior, but a travel companion. I have been writing about the fear of flavo since the late giklvate, when an odd, unexpected idea came to my mind: Currently, he hosts a weekly talk show at the most prestigious radio network in Brazil.
Strong are the ones who seem weak: For instance, he never shied away from using pharmacology when necessary, and benefited from experiences with psychoanalytic treatment, which he attended for five years, and behaviorist therapy he learned in the University of London in Up to that point, hikovate had been happiest being held by their mothers, in a peace and comfort such as they lost at birth, feeling for their mothers what we call love.
I have been writing about the fear of happiness since the late s, when an odd, unexpected idea came to my mind: His practice, however, remains his main activity. Cruelty is possibly best defined as an action that will deliberately bring harm others.
Freedom | Dr. Flávio Gikovate
What makes so many women and men offer explanations to an angry spouse, when they come home late from work? Theoretically, lastingly romantic marriages should be more common than those based on an exuberant sex life.
I suddenly realized that when people fall in love they start living in a constant state of alert—of panic, even—as if they expected a tragedy to befall them at any moment.
His book about freedom hit 40, copies. Once they learn this, they become less judgmental, more respectful and understanding.
We are entering a new age of individuality that is not selfish. People lose perspective, their physical strength and their hope.
Headstrong people are considered strong mainly because they impose their will on others, usually through fear of their anger and their ability to create drama. Love is my subject for this piece, and in this case, people are even less disposed to see its uglier side.
According to Gikovate, this is a sign that it is still poorly understood and far from a satisfactory resolution. When it happens, I believe it is because the word has several meanings and evokes different emotions for different people, according to their understanding of it.
His passion for his work as a therapist has not diminished, not even against his activities as an author and lecturer. What makes so many women and men offer explanations to an angry spouse, when they come home late from work? It would probably be great to be able to control the outcome of important events.